I once knew a woman who had racked up the equivalent of a decent college education before her husband learned of her spending. They had to pull $$$ out of their kids' college funds to pay for it. What was happening 6-12 months before? He had gained a lot of
"Tell your partner what you need" is responsible for more disappointment and heartache than any other commonly given relationship advice. (Except maybe "I feel" statements.") The advice comes from a logical and well-meaning place. The alternative is assumed to be-- * suffering in silence. * sucking it
Grief and Sadness in Long-term Relationships There's so much grief, loss, and sadness in long-term relationships. Even VERY good marriages suffer from disappointment and hurt. As a couple, it's easier to manage hard feelings when the source of stress comes from outside the relationship. But only
"I'm in pain and I need your help." Why do couples argue? It's not a rhetorical question. Why do YOU argue? At the heart of most arguments is a core thought or problem. It's often: "I'm in great pain
Behind the curtain (part 2) I used to feel jealous of my clients. Most of the couples I've worked with started working with me due to a crisis: * someone learned of their partner's affair. * their arguments had gotten too intense and hard to recover from. * one
